Why You Should Talk About Sex Before Having It: 3 Reasons It Makes Everything Better
Emphasis on the good and the bad things.
There are plenty of people who like to talk about sex but when it’s actually time to talk about the kind of sex we like, we get panic.
Ah, the “sex talk.” Did you have one with your parents when you were a teenager? I didn’t. My dad tried to sit all of my sisters down for the “talk” after one of our beloved cats was hit by a car… so no, I never had a chance to have that talk with my parents.
But unlike, the cringe sex talk you have with your parents, I’m talking about the potentially embarrassing talk you’d have with a partner before or after you have sex with them for the first time. Now I know there might be some people who think talking about sex before having sex is an odd idea, but hear me out. I think going about things this way makes for a less awkward, exciting, and fun experience for you and your partner. In this article I’ll explain the reasons why talking about sex before you have sex with your partner will turn up the heat with your partner.
It’s foreplay— I can’t think of anything sexier than sitting (or laying) down with your partner and talk about all things you like, dislike, or want to try. Not only does it create more intimacy between you and your partner but it’s hot. Even if you want to talk about it over the phone or over text (voice notes) during a lunch break, I bet the next time you see your partner you’re going to be 100% ready to go.
Boundaries are set— Sex is supposed to be fun and exciting, so what’s better than going into it already knowing what the boundaries are. Knowledge is power. I don't know about you but I would hate to have my boundaries crossed in the moment, when I could have expressed my do’s and don’ts before.
You know what to expect going in— It’s also a way to know what you’re getting yourself into. Maybe your partner has a specific kink that you’re not into, talking about it before hand can help the both of you make a plan to create something that will satisfy you both. The more you know the better, if you know your partner has a certain spot they like touched or not, wouldn’t you want to know that?
Basically, I'm just stopping you all from getting the “ick” when you’re supposed be getting your “yum.”